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The Importance of Trusting and Supporting Your Child’s Dreams

Two weeks ago, I’ve watched a viral video in Facebook wherein two siblings named Niana Guerrero and Ranz Kyleย is dancing – or perhaps grooving to the 2015 Hit Songs Sibling Dance. I really love their style and the little girl got that swag! They are really awesome dancers that I wanted to dance with them, too! Unfortunately, I’m not even a good dancer at all. So I’ve been dreaming about having kids who can dance as great and graceful as they do. Even I only have one child as of this writing, I am already hyped by the idea of recording Gabriel and his little sister’s (hopefully!!!) #SiblingGoals video in the near future. And it will go viral around the internet. They will be social media sensations. Who knows? They might even be invited to The Ellen DeGeneres TV Show!

Am I being too unrealistic? My first born’s just almost 10 months old. He can barely walk without someone guiding and hold him. My (imaginary) daughter’s not yet even conceived (because we plan on having her 4-5 years from now). And yet I am already dreaming of 2 kids dancing their way to stardom! Hey, wait. Why not? They can be anything that they want (as long as it’s not related to drug and alcohol abuse). They can dance, sing, write and draw. They can succeed in anything they will choose to do. Yes, they can. And I believe in them. Why won’t I? I am their mother, right?

Though I do not want to impose something on my child(ren) which they do not really like; or manipulate them to do something that is against their will. Except, maybe, on meal and bath times. Lol. I only want them to grow up as a dreamer. An aspirant. An achiever.

I want them to believe in themselves because mommy really does believe in them. I want to give them some of the things I felt I’ve been deprived of.

Confidence and support.

When I was still a child, I would often hear the words “you can’t”. It can be hurtful to a child’s tiny heart. Plenty of times that the adults have told me that I do not dance gracefully. And so I never did. I used to sing my heart out but it’s unpleasant to the ears. That’s why I stopped doing so. I can hardly even stand in front of too many people without my hands shaking (I’m talking about dancing and singing here). Those are two of my heart’s frustrations because I could’ve been a good dancer or singer, only that I stopped exerting effort on enhancing those abilities because I felt that no one trusted me that I could do better on that. I grew up feeling anxious about this aspect of my life.

You see? Every word a child would hear especially from us parents has a great impact on what they will become in the future. It can either crash their heart or strengthen it. It can destroy their dreams or encourage it.

I remember that my first dream was to become a teacher because that is my mother’s profession. And it changed over time. There was a time that I wanted to be a doctor. And a nurse. A cook. A dancer. An actress. And much more. Those dreams started as little dreams ’til I have finally figured out that I wanted to be a writer.

There are so many things that I know I CAN do but lack the courage to do so. And it can also happen to my children if I won’t show that I trust them. I must always show support and believe in the abilities of my children so they won’t grow up doubting themselves! Whatever it is that they will choose to do. Be it writing, singing, dancing or whatever their heart desire is. I only want them to grow fully confident, enhancing their strengths and pushing their way to reach their dreams or goals in life.

If they appear to be lousy singers or dancers, I wouldn’t care. They’re still little and has a long way to go. Their life has plenty of room for more improvement. I will sing or dance with them every single day even if my voice runs out or my knees get too tired. Because they willย never be not good enough for mommy. Because for me, they are awesome kids with awesome dreams and they’ve got awesome parents who will always believe and support them all the way!

 

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Invest trust and plant seed of confidence to every child. You’ll never know what they could become.

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29 Comments

  1. I agree that we as parents must trust and support our child’s dream. We are the ones who should be proud of them and we must always believe in them. surely it will help them a lot. it will raise their confidence and self esteem..parents are the no.1 fan as always ๐Ÿ˜‰

    1. Yes. And I think that if my children will pursue a career in the showbiz, I will be a certified stage mom to them. Lol. Thanks for dropping by! ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. “Every word a child would hear specially from us parents, has a great impact on what they will become in the future. It can either crash their heart or strengthen it. It can destroy their dreams or encourage it.”

    That’s why I’m wary of what I do even at my son’s young age ๐Ÿ™‚ We need to prepare them to pursue their dreams and all ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. It helps kasi talaga pag alam nilang may naniniwala sa kanila. ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. I agree with you on this, I also encourage my daughter to sing and dance. I actually sing along with her and I think it makes them happy when you do. ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. And it’s cute if you sing or dance along with your kids diba. Bonding moment ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. I agree with you on this, I also encourage my daughter to sing and dance since she loves to just by joining in with her. ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. I am such a proud mama to my kids. I am their #1 fan and will support them all the way. This is a good read.

  6. Dream big momma! ๐Ÿ™‚ We really must be careful with our words and actions that we don’t crush our kids’ spirits.

    1. That’s right! No to negative words talaga dapat. ๐Ÿ™‚

  7. Aw, I understand the need of every child to get emotional support from their parents… When i was about to enroll for college, I wanted to take up Fine Arts, but my mom said anu daw gagawin ko, magpepaint “lang”? I felt belittled, and I wasn’t even a “child” anymore.. I ended up taking Landscape Architecture, which is ok, but right now naiisip ko pano if napursue ko yun? I am now a freelance graphic designer, medyo malayo sa college degree ko haha. Kaya whatever ang passion and dream ng anak ko, susuportahan ko talaga sya sa gusto nya!

    1. Aww… I feel you! I dreamed of being a journalist naman before pero dahil wala daw pera sa media (unless maging sikat na artista), diniscourage ako and ang daming bagay na di ko nagagawa or di ko na natutunan dahil feeling ko wala naniniwala sa akin na “kaya ko”. That’s why I promised myself to give my full support to my kids whatever it is na gusto nilang gawin. Wag lang talagang magdrugs at bisyo na masama hihi.

  8. Mommy Levy

    We should be our kids #1 fan and supporter

  9. I totally agree with this article. We were brought up differently, and though we were achievers in the first part of life, it had an effect on our confidence and self-esteem especially when we keep on hearing “you can’t”. When I was younger, I used to dream about having an achiever child too. But when I actually had a son, I realized that there are more things that are more important, like having a greater bond with your child and being his #1 fan in everything. ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. That’s right! Im glad na maraming mommies ganito na din ang thinking. ๐Ÿ™‚

  10. Pia

    Oh wow. Your childhood experienced mirrored mine big time. I also canโ€™t dance for sh*t. And I remember being so conscious about this because my parents would good-naturedly make fun of me for having two left feet (Iโ€™m piki by the way- so they meant this literally). I saw a funny meme in Facebook a few weeks ago though, โ€œDonald Trump is what happens when you tell your children that all their ideas are special.โ€ It made me laugh, but at the same time I realised the gravity of being a parent: How do you make sure that your children have their feet firmly on the ground without crushing their self esteem? Do you encourage every interest that they have even though you know as a parent that their talents lie elsewhere? Itโ€™s a balance that I can only hope to achieve when I have my own kids. But youโ€™re right, the priority is to build their self-esteem and to encourage them to explore. ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. Do you encourage every interest that they have even though you know as a parent that their talents lie elsewhere?

      This made me re-think. Mahirap talagang maging parent but surely, ano man ang gustuhin nila, magagawa nila basta suportado natin sila. ๐Ÿ™‚ thanks for dropping by, Pia! ๐Ÿ™‚

  11. There is so much truth in this post, especially in the last quote you provided. I’m glad my mother supported my writing when I was younger, but I hope she also supported my interest in art! ๐Ÿ˜€

    1. Good for you! Medyo kinontra talaga noon ang kagustuhan kong maging writer. Kaya bawi bawi na lang sa anak ko ngayon. ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks for dropping by! ๐Ÿ™‚

  12. I believe that the support of parents is a big factor in a child’s success and self confidence. That’s why I do my best to show my kids that I believe in them and I support their interests.

  13. I totally agree with you, it really is a must that we nurture our children’s potentials + abilities as well as give wings to their dreams + aspirations in life.

  14. Super agree on this. My big Bunso would want to be a singer so I always let him sing before bedtime. He enjoys it. He is also part of his school’s teatro and they sing every first Friday mass. I let him because it makes him happy. It also makes me happy because at a very young age, he knows what he wants Na.

    1. Nice one big bunso! Nakakatuwa naman at very supportive ka sa kanya sis. ๐Ÿ™‚

      1. Ihihi. Stage mom lagi ako sa kanya at kahit sa mga kuya Nya. Ihihi

  15. beyondbooksandwalls

    I’m all for it! We’ve been homeschooling for 9 years and I’ve learned to recognize, respect, and appreciate our daughter’s unique personality and gifts. I wrote on a similar topic before ๐Ÿ™‚ http://www.beyondbooksandwalls.com/2015/02/02/how-to-encourage-your-child-to-dream/

  16. beyondbooksandwalls

    Correction: daughters’ (plural…we have 2 :)) … personalities..

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