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How To Survive No Yaya Problems?

Sometimes I wish to have the kind of superpower or magic that in just a snap of a finger, our house will be neat and clean, there is food on our table, then I can just eat, lay down afterward and rest my mind to get that much-needed sleep.

But in reality, especially for a working mom like me who needs to go to work in the daytime and attend to my baby’s needs after working hours… Even a clean house is almost not achievable. I had to accept it. There was a time that I felt physically and emotionally drained because I am tired of commuting to and from work and I still have chores to do. I have to cook food, clean the house before I pick – up my son from my in-laws’ house (just a building away from our home) and wait for my husband there to arrive since we have different working shifts. Once he arrives, we’ll head back toย our home, I try to put Gabriel to sleep by breastfeeding him and if successful, I will then pre-wash the used cloth diapers of the day. I am lucky if I accomplish all of those by 11 o’clock in the evening. But usually, 12 in the midnight is when I will crawl up to bed with my husband and Gabriel to catch some sleep. After 3-4 hours, I will have to wake up and prepare for work again. That’s a cycle.

As much as I wanted to get a house helper, we just can’t because we are living in a condo unit and we have no space for her as of the moment. So I have to face the #NoYayaProblems. Good thing, I am still breathing. I know I am surviving. And as I go on this journey of learning motherhood and family life, I have realized some few things I think I could share the world with.

 

1) Say goodbye to a clean house.

I think this is one of the hardest things I’ve learned on this motherhood journey. Though we only live in a small space, maintaining our home neat and clean is a mission impossible. Other mommies taught me about this as well. No matter how hard I try, if I will have to do it all by myself and without a house helper, I will end up not only exhausted but also unhappy in a way.

Once, I stumble upon an infographic while I was browsing facebook.

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A Mother’s Pyramid

It hit me hard because it made me realize that I really cannot do it all at the same time. I am not a super momma at all. And now I know why there are times that I feel like I am gonna go crazy any moment. It’s just hard to have the kind of balance in life. We can never have it all. That’s why for me, I just chose to let go of the idea of having a well-cleaned house for me and my son to stay happy. ๐Ÿ™‚

 

2) Cleaning Schedule and sticking to it (as much as possible).

I said in tip #1 that I learned to say goodbye to a clean house. But I didn’t mean that we live in a really messy, dirty house. I still make an effort to do household chores ONE AT A TIME. I just gave up doing too many things in a day (or night). As a solution, I made my own cleaning schedule. After work, I do one household chore on top of cooking food of course and get it done so I can somehow sleep in peace.

 

3) I learned to Delegate.

We are women. We grew up with the idea that most household chores are done by women. But in my case, since we don’t have a house helper, it helps a lot that I can easily delegate some household tasks to my husband. And he is always willing to help, in all fairness to him. ๐Ÿ™‚ He does the washing of the dishes (because most of the time, I breastfeed Gabriel after we eat our meals), throws away the garbage, hangs the clothes after it’s been washed and put them in the cabinet once all dried up. So in case you’re already feeling drained and would like to get a little bit of rest, ask someone who lives with you and whom you think you can rely on for some little help. It might be your husband, or if you have kids who can already understand and is willing to do things for you then you’re lucky. Not only then you’re teaching them to do household chores but you’re also showing them the meaning of responsibility.

If you need help, ask. Then it will be given to you. Just don’t forget to say “Thank you!” ๐Ÿ™‚

 

4) Wake up early.

This one, I admit on not doing all the time. LOL! But this is work-in-progress. It’s true that the early bird catches the worm. The earlier I get up from the bed, the more things I will be able to accomplish. That means more time for rest and quality time with the family.

 

How about you? Are you a working mom with no house helper, too? How are you getting along with it? Share with me some tips on how are you surviving your motherhood journey! Hope to hear from you soon! ๐Ÿ™‚

Live. Laugh. Love. Pray.

19 Comments

  1. Work-Home-Family balance is difficult, but doable. I think you’re on the right track, Michelle. Best wishes to you and yours! XOXOX Micki

    1. Oh hi there Micki! I do hope so too that I really am doing fine on this. Im actually planning to be a WAHM. Hoping to have a smooth transition though. So maybe then I will be able to maintain a clean house. Lol. Thanks for dropping by! ๐Ÿ™‚ xoxo ~ Mitch

  2. I have no yaya for like 3 years now! and its true, you really have to say goodbye to a clean house! Good thing i had a cousin who’s living with us now so i delegated the simple tasks to him like the garden, sweeping of the floors and some minor cleaning of the house.. Still, everything is doable but really consuming.. ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. I have been yaya-less since the time we moved in our home now. It’s a studio unit lang. Ok lang dati, very doable ang linisin ang bahay. Pero nang dumating ang little one namin, talaga namang kailangang i-let go ang clean house to attend to our baby’s needs. Lol. Very good si cousin mo sis. Napapakiusapan. ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. That was my everyday life a year ago when I was still working. Now, with a new baby to look after, I need to stay at home. And life, I guess, is crazier. Still no time to clean the house and do everything as my baby would demand most of my attention. So just like you, I’ve said goodbye to a clean house a year ago. But I am looking forward to school break this March coz it means my boys could help me look after their baby brother as I do some cleaning. Or perhaps they do the cleaning themselves.

    1. Yay! That’s good! Maganda rin na hayaan mo ang boys mo na tumulong sayo so they will learn doing the chores and not be too dependent sayo. Iwas haggard. ๐Ÿ™‚ Can’t wait for my son to grow up and learn to wash the dishes. Haha! (though gusto ko lang syang baby lang muna sana huhu)

      1. Hahahah. I feel and understand you re baby Lang muna. Ihihi. Sa start, I would always make ulit the dishes. Laging may dumi pang naiwan.

  4. Hello dear, same us here, no yaya, no companions no hubby only me and my Zd. It’s very tough but it’s okay nakakaya naman hehehe. That’s why lagi kung pinag pray kay Lord na di lang ako magkakasakit pati ang toddler ko ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. Oh, what I wouldn’t do for that superpower, too! We’ve been help-less for almost 3 months now and the house is just a big mess. I actually look forward to weekends when there’s no work so I can finally grab the vacuum cleaner!

    1. It would be good pa rin sana if we’ll spend the weekends lying on the bed all day lang noh? Haha! Kaso talagang tinatawag tayo ng mga house chores. Huhu

  6. I’m a WaHM with no yaya. It’s not even easier even when you stay at home. Hahaha. Agree on delegation. We had an understanding when I gave birth na sometimes I will not be able to finish chores. My husbandโ€™s such a darling. He takes care of our son as soon as makauwi sya. Binibigay lang sakin for dede time and I go about finishing the rest of the chores. He washes the CDs every night din and is the one who lulla baby to sleep or due nappy changes kapag early morning. Sabi nya I wake up kasi to breastfeed and it’s his share in raising our son. ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. Oh wow! Good job to husband kasi reliable din sya just like my husband, too. ๐Ÿ™‚ Mahirap rin talaga mag SAHM. Noong naka-maternity leave pa ako, ni hindi ako makakain sa maghapon e. Haha!

  7. i have never experienced having a yaya at home, but my sister is great at taking care of my little one whenever she is at home and when i am busy with numerous stuff. it might be difficult to manage at first, but am sure every mum can master the art of living yaya-less.

    instead of a yaya, though, i wish i can ask for one of those house elves from the Harry Potter books! ^_^

    1. You’re a potterhead, too! Hihi ako din. I wish I have house elves who can do the house chores for me. Pero ayoko din sana magkaron ng yaya so my kids will learn to be responsible enough in helping me out to do household chores. I guess it’s just really tough to maintain a clean house if you have a baby or toddler that requires a large amount of attention. Hihi

  8. This is my life since December of last year. Good thing my mom is near our place so I drop my son off to her when I’m at work. What also helped me in surviving this was plan things in advance. I write down the things that he needs whenever we go to my moms, I plan his baons (I’m training him how to eat healthy) ahead of time, and put it in the freezer if necessary. It takes a lot of work, but this is very effective for the forgetful me especially in the middle of a busy work week ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. You also have momnesia! Hihi that’s why I also write down the things I need to accomplish in a day because it helps me become an organized person somehow.

  9. I still remember the days that I didn’t have a yaya with me. My hubby and I would take shifts, but now that I’m working, and he’s back to school again, we sought out to get one ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m glad you’re surviving! You are such a powerhouse! <3

    1. Glad you survived it, RJ! ๐Ÿ™‚ it really is tough but doable.

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